So I consider myself a very spiritual person, not religious, but spiritual. Having grown up in a Christian household where Sunday mornings it was standard for everyone to wake-up when mom knocked on the bedroom door and begin promptly getting ready for church. I grew to dread going to church every week. The Southern Baptist mentality was not very forgiving (despite the preacher proclaiming “Jesus forgives all” with his red faced announcements that he would scream from behind the podium.) It was tough and I always felt alone and that I was full of sin every week during what we called “Big Church” (when the congregation met in the sanctuary to hear the pastor’s sermon immediately following Sunday School.)
Once I became a teenager mom didn’t really force me to go to church anymore. By that time I had enough close friends at church that the teenagers organized in the youth group became a pretty big deal. We made a presence in the sanctuary by sitting all together near the front and we were proud to set the example for the younger kids in our presence. It was nice to sleep in every now and again when I didn’t feel like going to church that morning.
I went to church for many years while living in my parents house. When I moved out into my first place without any parents, I didn’t continue to go to church. The main reason was because I was managing Hickory Farms, a retail store in the mall, where I had to work in different locations picking up slack from my team or training new people for the Holiday season. The mall was open on Sunday from 12p – 6p and often extending the hours for the Holidays, therefore making it hard to make church on Sunday morning before opening up one of my 6 locations later that day. These are only excuses and they come easily to me. I have heard them most of my life and being that I love to think I live the easy life, I enjoy duplicating what is in front of me that works best for me. That may sound selfish but after raising a son in a single parent household, I do believe I am entitled to think of myself first (and often.) It was not until my son was about 14 before I started taking a little more time for myself, conveniently after my son decided to move out of his childhood home and into the home where his father lives with his wife and their daughter and another child about Nathan’s same age from her previous marriage.
I put my everything into raising my only child to be the best part of me that I could put into him. Now, after planting years and years of seeds in him, it is time to watch the seeds begin to bloom within him. There is a lot going on with that situation (and a topic for another day) but I have faith that everything will work itself out. A growing boy should be living with his father as he develops into a young man.
Now here’s the part where I tell people I have it all figured out, lol. I wish someone told me when I was coming of age, that I didn’t have to do everything my parents did (or the generations before me that worked so hard for every little thing they had.) I am not saying that people nowadays do not have to work as hard as our predecessors but I am saying that there is a different way that one may go about things to obtain a very similar goal. The American Dream is still relatively the same; Grow up, graduate from school, get a job, buy a house, get a spouse, make a family, join the 40/40/40 club, then (if you are lucky enough to have prepared or been under employment with a company who helped you prepare for) retirement. Stop there.
If my son is reading this and does not pick up on anything else being written here it is this, TIMES HAVE CHANGED for the better. People that I know quickly learned that all of those years of being educated by expensive institutions does not guarantee that educated student a job in the real world after graduation. Nor does anyone REALLY tell you that you will have the debt that your education costed you follow you around until it is paid in full.
Today’s society doesn’t put that pressure on children to attend college straight after High School graduation. There is now an entire pamphlet called “Gap Year” put together by the masses and proudly displayed next to all of the College and University brochures trying to sell you on their campus. Gap Year is the year in between your 12 years of mandatory education and college. Many students opt to travel to Europe or get a job to save for their school course.
I am in an industry that includes people who have no business being in business AND they are turning out successful in this venture. My peers are normal people and they include really smart people, really pretty yet not-so-smart people, people with superior educations, those without any formal education at all and there are also those who don’t even try but seem to find success all the same. Here in this business model, everyone who puts in the effort will succeed.
In my new business venture there are steps that I need to follow and if I follow the steps in the way they are anticipated then I will succeed. If nothing else, I will succeed because at the end of the day, it’s just a numbers game and the numbers are unbiased without feelings present. When I turn my feelings off and have no fear of being told something undesirable then I have nothing to lose.
In Network Marketing, the territory comes with personal development techniques that will only assist in your success if you learn them. The improvements that will happen to your mind set are astonishing. When you allow these changes to take place, it’s like a whole other world out there. In my personal experience the more I learn in my personal development and the more I grow as a person, the more people are attracted to me and the more they ask advice of me.
When I previously discussed the 40/40/40 club, I was referencing men and women who work their entire adulthood (40 years) within the same company, having worked at least 40 hours every week as required, only to retire on only 40% of the income they made all of those years. We are now able to dream beyond what our parents did and it’s a marvelous thing! I have learned that with the right tools and leadership and dedicating my valued time into my business I will be as successful as I strive to be. Then I just have to keep it up (consistency) and repeat it (duplicate the system repeatedly), teaching the trade to those that are hungry for success and ONLY those that are hungry to learn and to become leaders themselves.
So with that being said, if you take away anything I have said it is this… find something that provides you with a residual income. It is not healthy to become dependent on a linear income because if you do not show up to work, then you do not get paid. I implore you to find something that you can have a little fun with and make money at the same time. Good luck in this life, remember you only get one shot at it!